Here’s What Singles Say In Today’s New Dating Culture

Are you out here on the dating scene without a clue about the language? I don’t know if you’ve noticed, or not… but in the last few years the language of love has morphed.  

Instead of being called, “love of my life”, you’re called “bae”. And instead of someone being upfront about a breakup, they just disappear.

If you’re not careful, you’ll get left behind, which is why I’m coming to you with 8 new dating terms that you should know about.

Some of the most pivotal moments in your relationship will come down to knowing what these terms mean. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself spending another evening all alone trying to figure out what happened while watching reruns on Netflix.  

Ready? Here we go!

#1: Cushioning

This has nothing to do with the phrase, “more cushion for the pushing” – nor does it have anything to do with making the relationship more comfortable. At least, not for both parties.

It’s actually a self-serving term (as you’ll see in most of these phrases) and is when the person you’re dating has other relationships going just in case the one between the two of you doesn’t work out.

#2: Breadcrumbing

You ever heard someone say, don’t feed a stray or they’ll never go away? Well, this is kind of like that. Breadcrumbing is when you feed someone tidbits of attention here and there, just enough to keep them around even though you have no intentions of taking the relationship anywhere.

#3: FBO

And in rolls the acronyms…

FBO is short for “Facebook Official” and refers to when you and the person you’re dating are ready to let others know about the relationship. You start to post pictures of the two of you hanging out and even go as far as to change your relationship status.

#4: Ghosting

Basically, this is when someone pulls a Houdini act. One minute you’re talking every day, and the next, they’ve vanished without a trace.  

Pretty much the person is no longer interested, but didn’t see the need to let you know.

#5: Haunting

After you’ve been ghosted, beware of getting haunted. Haunting is when the person who ghosted you in the past, decides to show back up. They’ll do things like start following you on Instagram, liking a picture on your Facebook page, or doing some other random act.

#6: FWB

This classic term means “Friends With Benefits”. And, it’s when the two of you are just in it for the casual sex – no strings attached.

#7: DTR

Have you ever been in a situation where you weren’t sure what the two of you were doing? Maybe it’s an official relationship, maybe it’s heading towards a relationship, or maybe you’re just FWB. You’re not sure because it hasn’t been clearly defined. DTR is short for “define the relationship’.

#8: Benching

If you’re thinking about sports, you’re on the right track. This is when the person you’ve been dating keeps you on the “bench” while they explore their other options. Usually, if you’ve been chatting with a person on social media or via text and they avoid meeting you in person…you’re getting “benched”.  

Now that you know what these terms mean, have you experienced any of the above? If so, how did you handle it?

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